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Sharron Bassano's avatar

"I want this change to stick. I want to feel stronger... It’s just a thing I do on a regular basis without making a big deal out of it." Yes! Making it a habit - like brushing your teeth, taking a shower. Sounds easy to do and easy to sustain, but it is not. I takes constant mindfulness, I think. A fine post! GO LYLE!

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Andrei Atanasov's avatar

Loved this, Lyle! The first part read like you were writing about me. I’m exactly in that place in my life, where in the past year or so I’ve lost about twenty pounds, and it’s the first time I was ever able to do so consistently. I feel myself making better choices, even somewhat unconsciously sometimes. Which means I’m acquiring better habits.

As for the rest of it, I’ve felt weak before, especially since over the years I met a lot of folks who were martial artists or heavily into gymming, and I used to compare myself to them, see them as “real men”, as opposed to the “normal” guys I hung out with on the regular. So that part of your essay spoke to me to. I’ve been feeling much stronger since

I started boxing three months ago, but it’s probably just a matter of my confidence increasing rather than any meaningful changes in body composition.

In any case, a man’s relationship to his body is just as complex and fraught with issues as a woman’s. Thank you for bringing attention to that.

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