I feel like we should talk about grief
I missed this post the first time around. Thank you for bringing it back. I often repost my own, especially the ones I am proud of that float around on the bottom of the archive unread. As a woman who has experienced a very significant loss and can't stop grieving, let me thank you for this piece. Love having no where to go. That is it exactly.
Thank you Lyle
Oh this is so awesome! I also had a post that I just couldn't nail down last week after a good chunk of time working on it. I felt bad and didn't want to leave my readers hanging. So I just posted something short, a little "thought for now" with the promise of something bigger to come! Don't know why I never considered that before. When I've been here for a bit longer (I'm coming up on 4 months now!), I can consider reposting. Or maybe I'll start occasionally reposting stuff from my long defunct personal blog... Also, why did I have to sign-in/reauthenticate myself to comment on your blog today? Is that something you put in or just Substack being weird?
I loved this and loved 'Grief is love that has no place to go'
It reminded me of Caleb Azumah Nelson's book 'Small Worlds' where he says 'Anger is love in another body'
This post hit me like a bus Lyle. My father has been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and with the knowledge that time is limited, I often wonder of being on the other side of grief, of time being passed after loss and grief. From where I’m standing, it seems impossible to ever get through it but when I read posts like yours it reminds me that it truly does pass.
Although the absence of one’s father can never be replaced, I think one eventually gets used to it, like how a person with perpetual blindness gets used to the darkness. I once read a quote I think by Adam Stanley “Just like our eyes, our hearts have a way of adjusting to the dark”
Thank goodness you reposted. This is beautiful and reminded me of the 4 people I have lost in the last 30 months. I totally get it when you use the word ‘sad’. Death taught me so much about life and impermanence. My other emotion over the period of time is ‘calm’.
I love this and thank you for the shoutout even if it goes against the basic tenet of my initial post lol