It's brave of you to write about this, Lyle. As someone in the early stages of this process now, I suppose I don't have enough distance to write about it publicly. And I do wrestle with the perennial question that memoirists face of how much of this kind of story is mine to tell. But you're right that there is nothing more clarifying than attending a wedding while feeling distant from a life partner. I suspect it has a catalyzing effect either way: toward repair or separation.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who cancelled all my other OKcupid dates after my first one on the site - did the same thing 11+ years ago. Still with the dang guy. We could be advertisements for OKCupid!
Thanks for sharing buddy. We’re you ever able to get closure with your first marriage? If it were me, not knowing what the root cause of the deterioration of the relationship would haunt me forever.
It's brave of you to write about this, Lyle. As someone in the early stages of this process now, I suppose I don't have enough distance to write about it publicly. And I do wrestle with the perennial question that memoirists face of how much of this kind of story is mine to tell. But you're right that there is nothing more clarifying than attending a wedding while feeling distant from a life partner. I suspect it has a catalyzing effect either way: toward repair or separation.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who cancelled all my other OKcupid dates after my first one on the site - did the same thing 11+ years ago. Still with the dang guy. We could be advertisements for OKCupid!
Thanks for sharing this life lesson, Lyle.
You've become what was missing for you during your break-up. A friend. Your writing is fine, but what you are doing with your life is finer still.
Thanks for sharing buddy. We’re you ever able to get closure with your first marriage? If it were me, not knowing what the root cause of the deterioration of the relationship would haunt me forever.