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Bowen Dwelle's avatar

"I wonder if my success was part of his identity too. Or, more specifically, I wonder if my lack of success threatened his identity as a successful man and father." If you wonder if if it did, it probably did. I bet it did. And—I bet he was also stressed, or hungry, or both. Regardless, it's just so remarkable how that little "C'mon Lyle" echoes so deeply. For me the echo is, or was, or still is, but much less than it was—anxiety. Usually it's a small anxious moment about forgetting something, but, as a I wrote about in this piece on "Anxious Masculinity," that spilled drop of water grows and grows until... the ship is sinking.

https://bowendwelle.substack.com/p/anxious-masculinity-things-fall-apart

I love the image of your "fingerprints" as artifacts.

Great piece Lyle.

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Terry Freedman's avatar

A very thoughtful piece, Lyle. I always think it's amazing that parents get even SOME of it right! Have you read Gibran's view on parenthood and children? "You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday."

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