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Sep 16, 2023Liked by Lyle McKeany

I just told Alicia, “I’m reading Lyle!” If you have readers who look forward to Saturdays just to read your latest work (me, every Saturday!), you are definitely a capital W writer!

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Wow, thanks for that Karen!

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Man, that’s such a beautiful thing for a writer to be told, Karen!

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Agreed!

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congrats on 3 years dude! you have been and continue to be one of my favorite writers on here you inspire me and make me laugh and also you're just v nice and kind and ok enough babble i'm gonna go cut off an arm so i have more to write about

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Dude, I nearly spit out my Chipotle when I read this lol. Thanks, btw!

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It really is a matter of just putting in the work. Once I stopped thinking I was going to be famous overnight like Justin Bieber and started thinking of writing as just a job, I actually started making money.

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Absolutely true. I’m less focused on making money directly from my writing and look at it more as a bonus, but you’re 100% right about the mindset to do so.

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I was just going to say you reminded me of Justin Bieber.

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There really are a lot of similarities. Justin Bieber is a human, I’m a human.

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Totally

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Thanks for this Lyle. I love that book by Augusten Burroughs. One thing he said that has always stuck with me (sorry, it's completely unrelated to writing but very related to the human experience) is that when a person is sick or old their world shrinks. Ahead of time you think you won't be able to survive not being able to...do the thing...but when the time comes your world has shrunk so much you don't notice because you're busy living a full life in one little room. This was when his partner was very sick and I think it was in Running With Scissors, which is his mind blowing memoir. Highly recommend that read.

Anyway, thank you for your milestone post. Congrats on three great years and continuing to keep it real for us.

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I remember that part too, Donna! Such a powerfully true thing. I’ve read his memoir, as well, which is part of why I gave This Is How a shot when I saw it at the library.

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Much to my chagrin our library was cleaning house and they removed This Is How from the stack so I adopted it and brought it home while wishing they would keep it. It’s a small library.

All that aside I enjoyed your article very much.

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This reminds me very much about what @Kimberly Warner is doing with "Unfixed"

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Thanks Joyce, I’ll check it out.

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Congrats on three years, Lyle! These are great tips! Also, you are a writer. You don’t need anyone, including me to tell you that, but I know sometimes we need to hear it. So there you go, writer, now keep going!

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Thank you, fellow writer!

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“Even when we lose an arm or a leg, there's not less of us but more. Human experience weighs more than human tissue.”

Love this. I was hit by a drunk driver and lost my sense of smell, however I gained so much in the experience both at the time and over time since.

Thank you for this freeing article.

PS I have published one of my own books and collaborated on a second, yet I still have a hard time with saying I’m a writer. Usually I mock myself and say “I’m a published author, don’t you know?!” And then laugh.

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Wow, that’s intense. You’re most definitely a Writer, by the way

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This is absolutely BRILLIANT. Your points are so true, valuable and helpful. Just restacked. I’ve been writing on SS for a year and I find all of what you wrote very true. Good stuff, Lyle 👍👍👍

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Thanks, Michael!

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God I know this one well - when it feels like a chore I know it will be boring for the reader and I’m telling the wrong part of the story or at least in the wrong way

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Yep, that’s the truth

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Congratulations on year 3! And thank you for sharing your knowledge, expertise, and great choice of quotes.

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Thanks for reading, Mya!

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Thanks for writing this! I’ve been working on overcoming my struggles with Resistance (it sits at the desk and visits so frequently it gets to be a proper noun, we’re on first-name terms) and wrote about it recently: https://bessstillman.substack.com/p/on-writing-or-not?utm_source=profile&utm_medium=reader2

It’s helpful when other writers are transparent with their process, too. Enjoyed the read!

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Thank you for sharing, Bess! While I don’t love that Jake has an indeterminate date with death, I do love that you bravely shared your experience with such specificity. I could feel the raw emotion through your words.

By the way, I get the sense that you’d enjoy the Foster community. We have weekly free Authoring Circles at various times throughout the week that are great for routinely getting your butt in your seat and writing, while also getting to know some other writers who are committed to doing the same. Feel free to email me at lyle@foster.co if you’d like to learn more about it.

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I will do that!

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Great reminder piece

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Thanks, Caryn! ❤️

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Ok preface: I told you I had thoughts!

1. I often mull over the fact that as writers in this space, we think of it like our 9-5s meet Entertainment Industry: gotta stick to the schedule, churn and burn, inspiration be damned. But what about the folks who DO get off-seasons to concentrate and refine their Notes app ideas? Why can’t we get an off season? What if the dip is merely a sign that batteries need a recharge? Nope, we just push ourselves through it like good little American worker bees.

2a. I’d love to read a piece titled “Am I Weird Enough?” (Subtitled: “Or is weird just the new normal?”)

2b. I stan for Augusten Burroughs!! My favorites are Lust & Wonder and Toil & Trouble, which unlocked my inner esoteric and lead me to my love of Tarot et al.

2c. I haven’t read Rick Rubin’s book yet, but Elizabeth Gilbert talks about the exact same theory in Big Magic and it hasn’t left me since. But after she writes about this theory, she adds, “You can dare to be pleased sometimes with what you have created. (And if a project doesn't work out, you can always think of it as having been a worthwhile and constructive experiment.) You can resist the seductions of grandiosity, blame, and shame. You can support other people in their creative efforts, acknowledging the truth that there's plenty of room for everyone. You can measure your worth by your dedication to your path, not by your successes or failures.” (Posturing that, if an idea leaves you, that’s ok too. It’s more about the dance you share together, however short or lengthy.)

3. No kidding about the unsubs! Folks will sign up at our art shows and the first time I send them an email they’re out and I’m like, whyyy toy with my emotions like that?!

4. “Writer” is an active noun to me. “Published author” is cool and all but a past tense noun that’s got an expiration date. One can’t sit on those laurels forever! Own your cap W Writer status!

5. Happy three years, Lyle!!

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1. This is such a great point. I remember listening to an interview with a newsletter writer who has a massive (100K+) list and him saying that at times it felt like he signed up to write something once per week for the rest of his life. But he mentioned re-running more evergreen posts or simply taking weeks off because he's human after all.

2a. This is definitely a question I'll be exploring at some point.

2b. I've only read Running with Scissors and This is How from him. I like his writing style a lot, so I'll add those to my list!

2c. I love Big Magic too! I thought of including her story in the piece too, but Rick's quote was much more pithy and made a similar point. I really like that quote you pulled out since it's so easy for us creative types to go into grandiosity, blame, and shame.

3. Maybe in that case they felt more of an obligation or they didn't want you to feel bad in person, but then had second thoughts later? That's annoying as hell, though, for sure.

4. I love the idea of "Writer" being an active noun. That's great framing!

5. Thank you! ❤️

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1. With 3 years material, “reruns” are totally viable! Especially for newcomers like me!

2. I’m moving Rick Rubin’s book at the top of my list!

3. It’s funny you mention the obligation since we actually have this funny line on the list that says “No need to sign up, you can still walk away slowly!”

4/5. This gig isn’t for the faint of heart! Thank YOU for putting yourself out here!

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Great read thank you

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Thanks for reading, Franc!

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Loved everything about this post. But this:

“If you write on Substack or a similar type of platform, turn off notification emails for when people unsubscribe.”

This has probably saved my life. I can’t stress enough what a good tip this is!

Thank you for writing consistently, for your honesty about your experience, and just for being here. I’m glad I met you, Lyle.

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Thanks, Andrei! I thankfully learned that lesson years ago, even before writing on Substack. It was one of the first settings I changed when I started this newsletter.

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Hi Lyle! Congratulations on your 3 year Substack anniversary! I’m always very glad to read your masterpieces on weekends! And I say masterpieces because you are a Writer indeed! With capital W! I also struggle a lot to say I’m a writer...and I write poems..so it’s even harder to say “I’m a poet” especially because I’m in the process of learning to write poems, I haven’t published a book...yet and my newsletter is just 4 months old! But writing my newsletter has been the most liberating and committing action towards my writing I have ever done: my poems have somewhere to live here in Substack, and the internet. Now my writing exists, it’s tangible as a newsletter. And it has subscribers! A few of them have unsubscribed...(thanks for the tip about the notification settings. I will no longer know who unsuscribes!) In a few words: your newsletter (and @jackelinesuskind’s) has inspired me to publish mine. Thank you for writing and for keeping the pace of the weekly frequency!

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Thank you for the kind words, Carolina! Keep writing!

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Thank you for sharing your knowledge! And congratulations!

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Thank you for reading!

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