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Joshua Doležal's avatar

Loved these two paragraphs: "My work has historically been deeply tied to my identity. Like many American men, I saw success in my work as a measure of my self-worth, and the fact that I kept falling short left me feeling insecure and unsure.

I’ve grown tired of chasing the big win. Sure, it would be nice to see another digit tacked onto the total in my bank account. But I know on an intellectual level that it wouldn’t solve all my problems or necessarily make me any happier."

Chasing the big win as a writer is an increasingly cruel fantasy. I keep reminding myself of Bill McKibben's idea of durability (for the planet, but also for ourselves). The racehorse economy that cycles through explosive highs and sudden crashes is a poor model for our lives -- but there are no big wins without riding that horse. The workhorse who plods along through the mud and doesn't accelerate much down the home stretch, but who doesn't break a leg either, is a better prototype to live by.

Professional baseball was my first dream. I've been chasing the book dream for a while, but publishing my memoir was a reality check. Substack dangles the same idea in front of its writers, and I think it has to be resisted in favor of McKibben's idea. Sustain yourself, sustain your family and local community, and you'll have what you need (without risking catastrophe).

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Mark Starlin's avatar

That’s the wisdom of age kicking in. I think contentment is a better path to happiness than “success.” If you enjoy what you have more than wish for what you don’t have, you will probably have a good life. Life is making memories. And it sounds like you have plenty. That is a successful life.

Ask any old person and they will tell you, relationships are more valuable than things. Or careers.

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